Do they have a secret meeting place?

I have this friend on one of my internet boards. Weve met a few times IRL ( in real life ) and shes simply a doll.
Shes been happily married for 11 years and is momma to 4 kids ( I will keep their names private ) . I asked her if I can blog her story and shes given me her blessing.

Things have been tense lately but her and DH ( dear hubby ) have been trying for baby #5 and going through some major losses : her mom just died, his mom is in hospital, and they lost a cousin in iraq in October. So she just wrote it all off to that.
Well.... Christmas morning apparently DH was getting ready to leave the house when E ( name private ) , asked him where he was going, after all its christmas morning right.. to which he calmly replies " Tell the kids I will see them later, I have things to get done " Well she inquired a little more only to get the real reason. <> DH isnt so " dear " hes been living 2 lifes. Hes been with this MAN named B, for about 3 years and is tired of living the lie. He is leaving his wife and 4 young kids who are 7, 3, 2 and soon to be 1! for this man who apparently also is leaving his new bride and baby to be happily ever after - CHRISTMAS MORNING.

Ill skip her sad details as that news itself was hard to hear and I wanted to break in 2 for her - and jump right to my title.

How the hell does this happen. Do these guys have a secret meeting place? How do they go about it? Do they take an add out " Hi Im X, and married to my wife of 11 years. We have 4 kids. I have a great job, she has it hard at home... and im wanting something new - you? "
Or maybe it says " Dumb ass looking for a male peice of ass ? " Grrr... whatever and however it is done.. why? I totally get some people just need something more, or someone else... etc. I totally get that some people are just " gay " . Ok fine. Its your choice.
I get the not wanting to lie to E anymore. She deserves to know but not like this. What makes this man so special.
Its hard enough when a man leaves his wife but in E's own words " Imagine the pain knowing hes leaving the cat for a male chicken! "

E - I know your reading this. And Im so sorry for you. If theres anything I/we can do ( including and not limited to finding this " happy couple " and making life a lil more real :) ) Let us know. Your strong, amazing and I wish you still lived here cause I would so be there to be that shoulder I know your longing for!. Maybe soon youll be restationed and then can pick the peices up?
Until then know that this is nothing you did, deserve or asked for - your amazing and god will see you through this too

And to the happy new dip sticks.... Happy humping. Hope your happy :)
Find yourselves before trying to find anyone else and good