I could cry for my friend

I decided I needed to blog, cause something is on my mind so much lately.

Ive been doing a great deal of thinking, which in itself is amazing sometimes, but this time its true! I have a friend who I care for alot.. She, along with her kids hold a special place in my heart but im frustrated. Over the 2 years i have known her I have heard, seen and worried so much over certain situations. I really thought that she would have moved on and found her feet touching the ground by now from one inparticular but its just not happening. I continue to support her and be there, all the while she knows how i feel - THATS WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND! but im getting worried again. very worried.

* let me say that sometimes i do wonder and worry about mike and I for example. Are we ok, am i a good wife? he a good husband, father, lover etc.... then when i put it in the the grand sceme of things- NO WAY DO I HAVE WORRIES. When issues like that that my friend is having come up it makes me reassure myself even more that what mike and I have is wonderful, right, loving, and true. I have no worries. He loves me, respects me, works for us daily - and i dont mean material wise i mean to be together etc. and I him. He is my best friend, my co-parent, my partner, lover, soul mate and more! Everything a marriage should be..... and more.

This is not what my friend has at all not even remotely. Maybe co-exitsting but certainly not healthy or right... Why my friend would be willing to put her and her kids through a apparently endless hell is beyond me. She was glowing today when i seen her, shes beautiful daily inside and out! , her kids are all 3 so wonderful each in their own way - and its all HER doing she raises them, feeds them, teaches them etc.!!! Shes a great mom, a trusting friend, a loving soul and is just searching for something/one who can make her happy and treat her right. Recently her other half and im using that loosely was away for a few months working, again very loosely. While he was gone she was doing so good, for herself talking better about herself her children were dressing better, getting stuff they have wanted, and she was working on fixing the house- i never once seen her unhappy other than missing him! When he got back home it went sour... shes down again, shes the one working while he sits hom doing god knows what, but its not taking care of the kids, hes sneeky, lies to her habitually, and is a self coinceeded ass hole about oh i dunno.. 120% of the time?!

This is the same man who days after she had a c-sec from hell was making her clean, cook care for the children etc cause he wouldnt.The same man who puts her down for her imperfections, yet thinks nothing of his own, dgrates her and the family by his actions, words and ways..... and yet.....hes still called a man.

It hurts badly to see a friend go through this.. all i want to do is see her happy, like she was. to see those kids grow up knowing that this way of life isnt right, ok or even remotely acceptable...

What can I do? Ive told her this time and time again- she knows everything i have said... i just want to stop her pain.

Sigh--- all in time superwoman all in time!